Breakup Advice

Can we save marriage from divorce? In a society in which nearly half, if not more than half, of marriages break up, this is a question with huge implications. It affects not only the couple themselves, but their children, their extended families, and even the community at large.

There are situations where divorce is the best option. In those cases, it is wise to aim for the healthiest divorce outcome for everyone involved.

However, there are also situations where divorce can be avoided to everyone’s benefit.

How do you know which situation you are in? Is yours a situation where you should attempt to save marriage from divorce?

First you want to ask some key questions

• Is the relationship abusive physically, emotionally or otherwise?
• Are there serious addictions involved?
• Are there serious personality disorders involved?

If any of these issues are present, then divorce is a much more likely option. However, even in these cases, there is sometimes a chance to save the marriage if both partners are willing to commit to seeking professional help and making fundamental changes.

If none of the factors above are present, then ask yourself these questions:

• What are the main factors causing us to consider divorce?
• In what ways might these surface factors actually be stand-ins for more fundamental underlying personality clashes?
• How might each of our childhood experiences have played into the way these issues affect us?

You see, many divorces are caused by the interaction between the unconscious childhood wounds of the partners involved. And, if the partners are willing to become conscious of these issues, and wisely use tools and resources – such as those provided in Getting the Love You Want – to help them do so, they can turn the clashes into an opportunity to grow even closer than before.

If your relationship is on the brink, but you want to try to save marriage from divorce, we will be sharing tools and ideas to help you do so.

How can we stop a break up from happening? This is a question that many visitors to this site will surely have. Along with discussions of situations where breakups are inevitable and of getting over a broken heart after a break up, we will also be addressing this question of how to prevent breakups or save marriage from divorce in the first place.

This discussion will include two main aspects:

• Preventative methods to be put in place to build a strong relationship that is less likely to even reach the brink of a breakup
• Emergency measures to take when a relationship is currently on the brink of a breakup

The bottom line is that yes, you can, in many cases, stop a break up. This doesn’t mean, however, that you always should stop a break up. Some relationship situations truly are best resolved by a breakup.

Our goal is to help you handle whatever relationship challenges arise in the most optimal way possible. If you do this, then you may still end up breaking up, but likely with much less regret than if you did so impulsively without first taking some important steps. In addition, even if you do break up after these measures, you will have learned valuable lessons that can help you avoid repeating the same pattern in your next relationship.

But we also believe that if you apply these measures, and your relationship is one with potential that has simply run into a difficult test, you can pass that test and stop a break up and even go on to create a relationship more fulfilling than before.