https://www.breakup-advice.org/breakup-advice/respond-breakup-ex-borderline-personality-disorder Insight on Wisely Handling Breakup and Separation Thu, 24 Aug 2017 20:59:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 https://www.breakup-advice.org/breakup-advice/respond-breakup-ex-borderline-personality-disorder/comment-page-1#comment-54 Glad he left Sat, 04 Feb 2012 01:13:36 +0000 http://www.breakup-advice.org/?p=214#comment-54 Just to add,im an intelligent woman who would never at one time have stayed in such an abusive rs.but I was worn down by him.they go through 3 stages when in a rs. Idealise/devalue/discard.u put up with abuse yet they throw u away without a second thought when they find a replacement.u cant help them,u arent equiped,and its not yr job.they require medical help,its a genuine illness,just as much as cancer.even tho ive never heard from him since he left,im still scared.i wudnt want anyone 2 go thru what I did.get away,stay away. Just to add,im an intelligent woman who would never at one time have stayed in such an abusive rs.but I was worn down by him.they go through 3 stages when in a rs. Idealise/devalue/discard.u put up with abuse yet they throw u away without a second thought when they find a replacement.u cant help them,u arent equiped,and its not yr job.they require medical help,its a genuine illness,just as much as cancer.even tho ive never heard from him since he left,im still scared.i wudnt want anyone 2 go thru what I did.get away,stay away.

]]> https://www.breakup-advice.org/breakup-advice/respond-breakup-ex-borderline-personality-disorder/comment-page-1#comment-53 Glad he left Fri, 03 Feb 2012 23:13:07 +0000 http://www.breakup-advice.org/?p=214#comment-53 My bpd bf dumped me by text after 3andhalf yrs and ran away to live with a woman he met online behind my back.at first he was attentive,generous,loving.by the end he was nitpicking,verbally abusive,mean,bitter,cheating,lying,paranoid.he had also broke belongings of mine,headbutted a hole in my door,and im ashamed to admit,assaulted me 3 or 4 times.i could and should have had him arrested,but by then was so under the thumb and scared.i was devastated when he left.no goodbye,just a text.im 6months out.i see clearly now.i was abused by him.i dont envy the woman he left me for.i pity her.she doesnt know whats ahead.i regret knowing him.i was like pollyanna when we met.im so jaded now.many bpd know they are unwell,but just destroy people instead of getting help.get away,stay away.its a black hole of misery.dont let them drag u in2 it. I love the peace im getting now.never again My bpd bf dumped me by text after 3andhalf yrs and ran away to live with a woman he met online behind my back.at first he was attentive,generous,loving.by the end he was nitpicking,verbally abusive,mean,bitter,cheating,lying,paranoid.he had also broke belongings of mine,headbutted a hole in my door,and im ashamed to admit,assaulted me 3 or 4 times.i could and should have had him arrested,but by then was so under the thumb and scared.i was devastated when he left.no goodbye,just a text.im 6months out.i see clearly now.i was abused by him.i dont envy the woman he left me for.i pity her.she doesnt know whats ahead.i regret knowing him.i was like pollyanna when we met.im so jaded now.many bpd know they are unwell,but just destroy people instead of getting help.get away,stay away.its a black hole of misery.dont let them drag u in2 it. I love the peace im getting now.never again

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