Comments on: Reader Question: How to Handle a Painful Breakup with a Younger Woman Co-Worker? https://www.breakup-advice.org/breakup-advice/breakup-younger-woman-co-worker Insight on Wisely Handling Breakup and Separation Thu, 24 Aug 2017 20:59:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Breakup Advice https://www.breakup-advice.org/breakup-advice/breakup-younger-woman-co-worker/comment-page-1#comment-31 Breakup Advice Tue, 27 Sep 2011 21:25:33 +0000 http://www.breakup-advice.org/?p=264#comment-31 In a situation like this, it is very common to feel that way. This feeling can become less and less intense over time and as things heal. But when the person is close by and in constant contact, it can really keep putting off that healing process. It is kind of like if you keep picking at a wound and it never gets to heal. That's why it is so important to get as much space as possible until the wound can really heal. At that point those feelings will probably subside gradually. If they don't, that is a sign of some deeper underlying issues and a good reason to consider therapy. It also makes sense that such a feeling is present when this was someone's first relationship, and at a later age than most. That would of course contribute to the feeling that it is very difficult and rare to meet someone and that it is unlikely to happen again. And of course it might be difficult unless the person uses this experience to face the issues underlying the pain and grow. When they do that, then they become more solid in themselves, less needy and more attractive. Finally, this kind of feeling is why the issue of withdrawal from a relationship addiction was raised. I think How To Break Your Addiction to a Person, which is linked in the post, does a great job of explaining just why feelings like this can be so overwhelming and how to get some perspective on them. Highly recommend you get a copy of it. In a situation like this, it is very common to feel that way. This feeling can become less and less intense over time and as things heal. But when the person is close by and in constant contact, it can really keep putting off that healing process. It is kind of like if you keep picking at a wound and it never gets to heal. That’s why it is so important to get as much space as possible until the wound can really heal. At that point those feelings will probably subside gradually. If they don’t, that is a sign of some deeper underlying issues and a good reason to consider therapy.

It also makes sense that such a feeling is present when this was someone’s first relationship, and at a later age than most. That would of course contribute to the feeling that it is very difficult and rare to meet someone and that it is unlikely to happen again. And of course it might be difficult unless the person uses this experience to face the issues underlying the pain and grow. When they do that, then they become more solid in themselves, less needy and more attractive.

Finally, this kind of feeling is why the issue of withdrawal from a relationship addiction was raised. I think How To Break Your Addiction to a Person, which is linked in the post, does a great job of explaining just why feelings like this can be so overwhelming and how to get some perspective on them. Highly recommend you get a copy of it.

]]> By: Anonymous https://www.breakup-advice.org/breakup-advice/breakup-younger-woman-co-worker/comment-page-1#comment-30 Anonymous Tue, 27 Sep 2011 16:49:31 +0000 http://www.breakup-advice.org/?p=264#comment-30 Is it normal to feel like you'll never want anyone else again or even never stop fantasizing about that "one day" they may come back? I'm don't want to fall apart each time I hear that her relationship with someone else has progressed. Is it normal to feel like you’ll never want anyone else again or even never stop fantasizing about that “one day” they may come back? I’m don’t want to fall apart each time I hear that her relationship with someone else has progressed.

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